Unfuck Yourself - Free Yourself from Self-Imposed limits

"Until, Fuck that. The world is ours"

I love movement in photos. Movement reminds me of freedom. It reminds me of just following your intuition. Some of the best photos come with no plan, just vibes. Honestly, I cannot believe I haven't shown these photos before. I took this set right before moving to Los Angeles. Ms. B and I meet up at one of my favorite places in the DFW and just created this amazing set. No Concept. No limits. Pure freedom.

You would think, just based on the photos, that there was music. There wasn't. Only the sound of the wind hitting the leaves and the water washing up on the rocky shores.

Sometimes it's just nice placing our brain on autopilot and letting our subject be. This shoot reminds me of elementary school freedom. When you're old enough to know better and know the rules, but still young enough to for the world not to scare you. The concept of fear was foreign. Where you can bask in your nativity. You smile at anything. You run up to strangers and greet them because you see the good in everyone. The world is your oyster.

The first weekend in the New Year I was shopping at Marshall's and the CUTEST little girl randomly ran up to me and just said "HAPPY NEW YEAR". She had to be about six and her adorable face, almond eyes, and raven hair just melted my heart. I don't think I smiled that hard in a long time. I mean smile from the heart. It's amazing what a simple phrase from an unsuspecting school girl can do. In that moment, it triggered something in me. Her lack of fear and love of life motivated me to change my mindset for 2021.

Where did this fear come from? When did anxiety show up? When did we lose that armor of self-confidence? When did we have time to build up armor to not let people in?

When did all this happen?

The year 2020 gave me so much time to think. 2020 Gave the GIFT of time.

My conclusion:

I'm tired

• I'm tired of people trying to be my "savior". I don't need saving.

• I'm tired of people projecting their insecurities on me.

• I'm tired of dulling my star because I wanted everyone to feel like they could shine.

• I'm tired of working for other people.

• I'm tired of laziness.

• I'm tired of not letting anyone in

• I'm tired of letting myself go.

• I'm tired of letting my previous experience with past lovers make me not want to deal with other people.

• I'm tired of being mad that I let someone steal my nativity away. I still think about this from time to time.

• I'm tired of fear.

• I'm tired of doing the same shit.
  
  
  

Y'all I'm exhausted.

Right before New Years', I had POWER by Kanye playing on repeat for at least two days straight. There is a lyric in that song that struck a chord with me. I have heard this versus at least 500 times, but the days before New Years' it resonated in a way that it hasn't before.

"I'm taking my inner child, and I'm fighting for custody"

In 2021 I'm saying:

• Fuck Fear

• Fuck the Rules

• Fuck Laziness

• Fuckkkkkkkkk Anxiety

• Fuck Not Taking Chances

• Fuck following the status quo

• Fuck not drinking enough water

• Fuck not being open to receiving love

• Thank you to the person who stole my naivety

• Fuck dulling my star. I'm going to shine like the sun

I'm following my intuition in 2021.

I want to feel how Ms. B looked during this session. Free... free from all social norms. Free from rules set up by other people. From anxiety. Just Free.

Mostly, free from my self imposed limits.

Now that I think about it, that beautiful little girl that ran up to me was a sign. Look for them everywhere, the Alchemist.

I'm permitting myself to be myself, unapologetically.

Fight for your POWER in 2021.

News Years 2021 Goals for Everyone

2021 New Years Resolutions & Goals for the World

Be unwilling to quit during 2021.

Be unwilling to compromise on your goals.

Be unwilling to compromise on your integrity.

I ask all of you to use 2021 and stand against the belief of limitations. Focus on your intent of creating a better world with a purpose to help others. Your lack of imagination is your only limit.

Fight against negative thoughts. Remove negative people and situations from your life. Life is too precious to waste. Life is a fucking gift. Treat it as such. Your life is valuable. Your life has meaning.

Remember to follow your intuition. Even if others don't understand or agree. Not everything you go through is meant for understanding by everyone. You don't owe an explanation to anyone.

Have faith in yourself. Have faith in the collective. Have faith in your ability.

Happy New Year!

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Blog: Eureka! The Golden State

Wow, I can't remember the last time I just wrote a blog post... well, I mean it's not like I can't go back and see the last blog post on Wonderland Boudoir was a year ago this month. Honestly, I can't even tell you how that happened (well, actually I can…and I am… which if the point of this post). The year 2019 FLEW THE FUCK BY. So much has happened since the last time I just put pen to paper.... errrrr... finger to keyboard.

WHERE DO I BEGIN?

How about at the end.

I moved to the Golden State. Yes, Wonderland Boudoir has moved to Los Angeles, California! I wanted to do this for several reasons:

• I needed a change

• I love Los Angeles

• I want to further my career in photography

Now that I told you the conclusion, let us start at the beginning.

THE BEGINNING

I have lived in Dallas my whole young adult life. I move there in 2001 to go to University. From there I graduated with a degree in International Business. I thought I get a job in importing (oh the irony as I type that last word). Instead, I started my career in Finance. Little did I know I would stay on that path My first job post-university was working for a few sub-prime auto lending companies. As a child of the recession, like millions and millions of other Americans, I lost my job. Each time I lost a job it took about seven months to find a new one.

During the downtimes, it never felt bad at the beginning. I was in my young 20's and I was getting unemployment. Back then rent wasn't as crazy as it is now so being unemployed felt like a mini-vacation. That was until reality set in and I couldn't make those car payments. I had to grind to find a new job.

Seven months later, I did find a job at one of the most famous electric companies in Texas. I made it on as a contract employee with the promise to go permanent in six months. I made a LOT of lifelong friends there. I also learned some lifelong lessons.

PEOPLE DON’T LIKE THE TRUTH

One of the major lessons I learned at that company is that people don't like hearing the truth. I also learned that I may be clairvoyant (that's for another post). The day before a huge meeting I had a dream about a two-headed stone dragon that was in the form of a fountain that was set in the middle of a courtyard. What that two-headed dragon represented was me having a choice. One of those choices would cost me something. That change would be life forming. The dream symbolism also indicated I would end up on top.

The next day at work we had a meeting, and I forget what the meeting was initially about, but I spoke up to voice my concern. Most of the people in that meeting room, including myself, had been a contractor for this company for over 18 months. We were promised to be permanent after month six. When I challenged them on it I was told that " I should come in like every day was a job interview". Then I responded, "This is the longest job interview ever." The entire room burst out in hysterics. After that meeting, swarms of people came to my desk thanking me for speaking out. After the crowd dissipated, another coworker, watching all of this, came over to my desk and said, "It's funny how they all thanked you, but no one backed you up when you were telling the truth."

Two days later I was laid off.

Don't be sad because this was the best thing that could have happened to me.

• I am proud that I spoke up.

• I spoke my truth.

• I said it for the people too scared to say anything because they had more to lose than I did.

• The woman who fired me thought she was seeking revenge, but what she gave me a gift.

THE GIFT

I was laid off for another seven months. During my second stint, I hung out with my dad every day that summer. We traveled together, laughed, he moved to Dallas with me for a bit. I love him. Then by September, I was hired at a new company. He moved back to Austin. By November my dad passed away.

I was given the gift of time. I know that now.

I won't lie, I was ANGRY when I got fired. I stood up for what was right. Yet I was the one being punished. I later learned that after I stood up, the same day we were let go, they hired on others permanently. What I said started a fire, and a change happened. But once the dust settled and I got my mind right, I realized that if I hadn't been laid off I wouldn't have had all that precious time with my father. I wouldn't have learned who my dad was as a person.

As a human being with past and vulnerabilities.

My dad, who raised me as a child, learned who his daughter was as an adult, and he loved me. He loved my flaws, he loved my attitude (cuz it was his), he loved my style (my parents fight over who I inherited my sense of style from). He loved me for me... cuz he's known me before I was me. I was his because I was a masterpiece he and my mother created together. Our parents love us in a way we will never ever ever comprehend.

I love my father.

I type as I have tears strolling down my face.

Even though my father has left Earthside, he stills comes and visits me. He lets me know he's okay. He tells me what he's up to. When something is important he has me deliver messages to those that need it.

ONE NIGHT I LOST POWER

Before, I would have been too scared to share this kind of information with the world, but I am now learning to live in my truth, vulnerability, and intuition.

Random Story: One night, before leaving my beautiful downtown Dallas apartment, my father came to me. I was awake, slightly drowsy but awake. All the electricity in my apartment was off and the only thing that lite my apartment was the rays from the moon.

I hear a loud whisper, "Korin. Korin." I wake up and it's my father's voices and all I see is his silhouette. He's walking towards me while I'm still laying on my bed. I can't see his face, only his body. I say, "Dad! Dad! Hang on! I need to take your picture. No one is going to believe me! " I grab my cell and it's not turning on. "How is it dead?! I fully charged it before going to bed." Feeling defeated I try to turn on the lamp next to my bed, it's not working. My dad commands my attention again and this time he says, "Korin, I have a message for your brother. Let him know that whatever happens that I will always have his back. I am looking out for him." Then my dad leaves. Feeling frustrated that no one is going to believe me, I fall back asleep.

The next day I'm feeling like I might be crazy. I knew this wasn't a dream. I was awake. I decided to call and speak to my bestie Ms. S, who I know won't judge me and think I'm crazy. She patiently listens to me and then tells me my encounter with my father is not abnormal. She told me that spirits can't come back in the physical form so sometimes they have to use electricity so you will recognize their human form.

Nonetheless, my brother was going through a major change, and he did get past it.

I bring up this whole story because I want you guys to know that I believe things work how they are supposed to work in this life. Sometimes we see things as a setback when in reality they are setups.

MOVING TO OLD EAST DALLAS

Not too long afterward, I move out of my beautiful apartment in Downtown Dallas and move to Old East Dallas. I moved because the rent was getting more expensive and I needed a cheaper place to live because I had committed to moving to Los Angeles by July of 2019. I needed to save all the money I could. I officially moved out of that place on January 31, 2019.

I moved into a beautiful art deco apartment built in the year 1959. While the place was nowhere as nice as my previous spot, I liked it more. It felt like a REAL neighborhood. A community. There were so many different personalities. It was like a sit-com. Many of these people have lived in this complex for over 10 years and knew the comings and goings of everyone's business.

My goal was to only stay here for six months, but I ended up doing 10.

I learned the value of being a good neighbor. I learned that everyone has a story. It also reinforced the teachings that you should never judge a book by its cover.

In February I worked on my GPS (my version of a mood board) and how I was going to get California. This book included how I was going to save money. What part of LA I was going to live. What my new life was going to be like. This was not my dream, this was my pending reality printed in colored ink.

My vision board and my new community was my haven because my job was becoming more unbearable by the day. Without going into too much detail, I felt like I was walking into the pits of hell Monday through Friday. Every day was a battle for my mental health. Every day I come home wanting to curl up into a ball and wallow in my pain. However, I used that pain as the catalyst to spark my drive to get to Los Angeles.

Every day I would apply to 10 jobs. I would also work on my interviewing skills. I met with so many people and companies and flew out to California so many times that I lost count. I used to love flying... but it all started becoming so routine (something I never thought I say). I felt like I was on planes more day than I wasn't.

I won't go into too much detail because this post is already over 1600 words long, but I received several job offers, but only one was the obvious choice. It was what I manifested. It was for an iconic brand, in a great area, and it where I wanted to live.

I put in my two-week notice to the CFO and I never felt happier in my life.

After 1400 miles, 50 packed plants, 3 days on the road, and 1 trooper of a dog, Jax and I made it to Los Angeles.

Wow. That's a fucking lot.

Trust me, I cut out a lot of fat.

Okay, I'm going to end it here. I do want you to know I am going to start a personal site. Once it's completed I'm going to list it here so you guys can read about all my adventures.

You guys have no idea who excited I am to be here and get this third act of my life started! There is so much awesomeness and I cannot wait to see where I'll be at a year from now.

I know it's February 05th, but I want to wish you all guys an amazing 2020!

Oh yeah, Dallas! Don't worry I will ALWAYS come back to you. I even have a March Mini Session live RIGHT NOW! Check it out here!

How I Am Manifesting the Life I want in 2019

You can't ask God for something, I mean like REALLY ask, and only meet the Divine creator halfway. I'm going to just do a thing I haven't done in while and just write. Get everything in my head, on to "paper" and hopefully it makes sense laid before my eyes.

Procrastination is a Motherfucker.

I meant to write this post at the beginning of 2019. It was going to be a whole "New Year! New Me Thing!" However, 2019 did not start off anywhere on how I would have liked it. I mean that quite literally. Based on how my New Years Eve started, the moment that clock stroked 12 I made a deal with myself. I'm living my life with intention and happiness. I need to do what makes me happy at the end of the day.

I will be true to my thoughts, my intentions, and how I plan on manifesting them. I wrote a GPS (pretty much a vision board made into book form) of where I wanted my year to go. It lists my goals for the year and how I plan on taking action by the month to accomplish these set achievements. It was a mix of "goals" intermingled with how I was going to get there.

Why did I place the quotation marks around the word goals? Well, it's because I learned the other night (quite literally 02/20/2019) some of my goals listed are vanity goals. We can get into what a vanity goal in a later post and how I plan on correcting my thought process for 2019.

So far we have had 53 days in 2019 and each one of them has been more dramatic than the last one. I have no idea what's going on this year, but it feels like we entered into some crazy realm of where EVERYONE is doing the absolute most. Lately, I have felt like I am just a passenger on an emotional rollercoaster.

I'm over this and I'm getting off.

I can no longer be a spectator in my own life. I have absolutely no desire to be taken for a ride that I never asked to be on in the first place. I have mentally challenged myself to get out from where I'm at and live my life how I want to see it.

2019 IS THE YEAR OF CHANGE & SACRIFICE

Less than month of existing in 2019 the world has been crazy. When the Virgo Supermoon entered at zero degrees on the 21st of of February all it did was escalate the extremities in the world. It seems like everyone was effected simultaneously. Virgo did not come to take names. Since she's not playing around, nor am I. Today I'm going to discuss some changes that I'm planning on making for 2019. Hopefully, these changes help me for the rest of my life.

THINGS I'M CHANGING

1. Saying Goodbye to Self Doubt

2. Not comparing myself to others

3. NO MORE COMFORT ZONE

4. Inserting myself out the drama and focusing on me:

5. Placing all my Energy into my Business

6. Not Taking the Journey for Granted

7. Placing my All into EVERYTHING I do while I'm a part of the conversation

Saying Goodbye to Self Doubt

I'm not doing this shit anymore. I'm no longer going to live a life where every day I get up and I doubt every single thing that I do. I can no longer sit at my desk and hyperventilate into a bag scared that one day someone is going to find out I'm some sort of fraud and I have no idea what the hell I'm doing at my desk.

This week I woke up with the IDGAF mentality. So much has changed at work and I needed to change as well. I no longer wanted to pretend I had it all together. I don't. I was suffering in my own thoughts and challenges. This was causing me to be ineffective in my role.

In a meeting with some major heads of our department, I just came out with it. I told my CFO that I have no idea what in the world you want from my role or from me. I had to say this. I could no longer be shackled to my own insecurities.

Do you know what I learned from that meeting?

NO ONE KNOWS WHAT THE FUCK THEY ARE DOING!

I couldn't help but to fucking laugh.

Why did it take me, one of the youngest people on the team, to speak up? Once I finally admitted it, a whole avalanche of confessions from the rest of the group came up and I felt so damned relieved.

A friend of mine who owns a local bakery said something to me one day that has always stuck in my mind. When you are truthful with what's really going on with you and you express that honestly, the world will reward you with getting to where you need to be. There are people out there who are willing to help you. You just need to let them know you are suffocating in a pool of your own thoughts.

If anyone were to ask you if I was insecure... shit if I were to ask that of myself... I would have answered, without hesitation, "NO". Being insecure is not limited to physical looks. It includes how we view life and the people that come in and out of it. However, in those moments leading up to finally being honest with myself and my team, I was insecure. I was scared of what this team, some of the most intelligent people in my company, would think of me if I admitted that I, in fact, did not have it together.

I am happy that I chose my sanity over my insecurity. I am so happy that I spoke up for myself. I think in that move I was breaking one of the generational curses of my family. I was showing humility and asking for help.

One of the clear lessons of 2019 will be about speaking up for yourself and removing your ego from the end result. I honestly no longer give a fuck about what people think about me. What I have seen more recently in meetings with some of the highest people in the company is that they freely admit when they don't know something. They say it out loud. They admit it with no ego. Then they will conclude the statement, "I need someone smarter than me to figure this out." It totally dawned on me that, while a lot of these people may have multiple degrees and accolades, that only means so much in the totality of success.

Having a doctorate in something doesn't mean you're the smartest or the most accomplished. It means that you put in the fucking work. These people got into these positions, not because they were the most intelligent, but because they knew how to use the people around them to place them in those positions. Yes, education helps as well but let's be honest, most of the world's most famous CEOS and business people don't have degrees. What they had was a drive.

I can't get to where I need to be driving in circles in my own head. For the -next 7-10 days I'm going to still be Korin... but the version who is truthful with my intentions and what I do and do not know. I can't wait to blog about this and report back to you guys.

NOT COMPARING MYSELF TO OTHERS

Since I'm living in the IDGAF world and really expressing who I am and what my thoughts are, I feel safe admitting a guarded fact to everyone ready this post. I have a bad fucking tendency to compare myself to others. Yes, I encourage others not to do this, but it's one of the hardest things NOT to do. Again, this all goes back to the ego.

I fall into the trap of romanticizing the life of other boudoir photographers. Ones, unlike me, who work on their craft full time. Not having a 9-5 allows these photographers to flourish and work on personal projects. In turn, making them even better photographers and business people. The ones that make $8.7 gazillion dollars a year. The ones who I see are consistently becoming better because they have the time, type of business, and work life I aspire to have.

However, I know that there are a number of things that go along with what I can't see in those pictures. (1) The hard work it took to get there, and (2) not everything is what it seems in their real lives.

What would it really look like if pulled back the curtain? I don't know. However, their journey is not my journey. I'm not sure what their personal life is like at home. I don't know what personal struggles they are going through and not announcing. I'm making false assumptions about the happiness of people I know nothing about based off an Instagram feed of beautiful curated photos and stories they have created.

Don't get me wrong. All things considered, I love my life. I really love my life. However, I need to fall back in love with the process. I'm so fixated on the result and not what's going to take me to get there. I need to show more gratitude.

Yes, this may be my ego speaking right now, but since I'm on that IDGAF tip I'm going to say it. I have all the potential in the world to be just as amazing if not be even more extraordinary, and so do you. I have no desire to limit my potential because of my own self inflected ego.

GETTING OUT OF MY COMFORT ZONE

Getting out of my head naturally means one thing, to get the fuck out of my comfort zone. I had fallen into something so mentally unhealthy. I was accustomed to being angry and bitter about my place and position in the world. I began just being bitter and maybe a lowkey hater. Since I'm being transparent, this (is it jealousy?) did not end at boudoir photographers. This was anyone living their full and authentic life without permission from anyone. I was so envious of the risk takers. Why couldn't I do that?

I was comparing my life to people I grew up with. Pre-Myspace and Facebook once you left, your hometown, college, or an old job you would probably never see that person again. However, the internet has changed the whole damn game. Watching my friends flourish was causing me to be jealous. I would see my friends start these amazing companies that really felt like they were just taking off overnight. One friend has a blooming internet company where people just flock to them. Another friend started their own firm. This is why I felt kind of conflicted with my feelings. While it was inspiring to watch that person build up their firm I couldn't help but feel an inclining to jealousy. Not because I wasn't happy for them... but upset at myself for not doing something incredible like that.

Why was I jealous? Because they were taking a chance on themselves. I had watched the process, the dedication, their post, spoken to some of them on the phone about their own insecurities. However, no matter which route any one of them took one of the major themes was them jumping off the ledge and taking a risk on themselves. While the pressure is on to have their companies to be successful, they are happy because they fell in love with the determination of living a life they gave themselves. They no longer wanted to be on anyone's time but their own.

I had one friend sleep on the floor of their other friend's house with nothing but a laptop, notebook, and determination. Now this person travels the world and makes and an unbelievable amount of money a month. But most importantly, happy. Another friend who gave up their engineering job they strived so hard to get to start a bakery. Someone whose own mother didn't have their back. This person ran through their entire savings and had to move back home. However, 2.5 years of sacrifice was worth it because now they are one of the most sought after pastry chefs in a major city. Another friend who, put their head down in the books moved back home, studied to pass state examines while his other friends pointed out all his failures. Instead of helping this person, they gossiped about the failures. Nonetheless, this person really showed everyone one of those "friends" up but creating a dream life and business. not only did this shut the haters up, now all those people want to stand up next to their accomplishments.

Each one of these examples is a person who got out of their comfort zone and gave a middle finger to the people around. They gave up their ego and stuck to the plan. Now they each have an amazing business they created. They dreamed and sculpted their own lives. They are the boss. They are employing others. They are making major changes in the world... all because they got out of their own way.

INSERTING MYSELF OUT OF DRAMA

The one thing about corporate America that anyone can quickly fall victim to office drama. Let's not end the drama at just the office. We are inundated with so much drama in the world. Office drama, political drama, shit even social media drama. I mean, there is no reason why I should know that Khloe Kardashian has dropped her baby daddy Tristian Thompson and Jordyn Woods (who is basically the adopted little sister of the Kardashian family) because Tristian and Jordyn were (allegedly) caught canoodling at a private party held Tristan's house. Why do I know this?! Why do I know all these peoples names?! Why do I even care?!

If you allow it, the drama will take up so much of your energy and time. Also, being in the middle of drama makes you look bad as a person. It makes you look like the person who can't be trusted. Therefore I am no longer taking part of the bullshit.

PLACING ALL MY ENERGY IN THE BUSINESS

In 2019 you are going to see a change in everything about the business. However, I don't want to talk about it now as I haven't finished the timelines on everything. Just know that a year from now life will feel and look different. I can't wait to show you guys what it is. Most of will benefit the customers. These changes are stemming from building my business the way that works for me and the lifestyle I plan to create for myself. I think you guys are going to really appreciate what's to come next.

NOT TAKING THIS JOURNEY FOR GRANTED

I can no longer take this journey called life for granted. Am I doing as much as I could be? No, because I have made excuse after excuse after excuse. The fact of the matter is I could be doing more. There are people in this world who have a fuck ton more problems, issues, obligations and still find time to accomplish personal goals and grow their business. I can do the same.

I have spent too much time complaining about what hasn't worked, but I haven't even put a quarter of the effort into making could work, work. I had to self-audit myself and the reasons why life wasn't going according to plan. I found that I was making the unconscious decision not to make it work.

Example: I still work full time. When I come home I'm mad tired.

Solution: Eat, watch one show, work on anything from my business two hours straight.

Solution: Be in bed by 10 PM to get up early and work on business for 2-3 hours before work.

You can accomplish most desires if you make them a priority. If this is what you really want you will stop at nothing to make this happen.

PUTTING MY ALL INTO EVERYTHING

One must place their absolute all into everything they do. If I want people to take me seriously, my work ethics has to reflect that. No one wants to work with someone who really doesn't care about what's actually happening. Half ass work gives you half ass results. Occasionally, I have a bad tendency just to do something to say I did it. Had I placed a bit more effort into what I was doing imagine how much more epic the results would have been... or where they would have to lead me. When people see how incredible your work is they are more willing to come back and recommend you to others.

With that being said, I will start placing realistic levels of expectation of what I deliver. This is meant both from a business, personal, and work /life standpoint.

I also plan to set limits with people. I find myself wanting to please everyone while sacrificing my own sanity. If I truly want to deliver a level of quality and excellence to everyone I have to audit my own life and delivery on what I can and build up from there.

I have to really place my all into these goals I have listed above and really break down the goals in the GPS I created for 2019. I want to really make this work, but the only way it honestly is if I do the work.

I AM READY TO BE HAPPY

I'm satisfied, but I want to be HAPPY. I want to wake up excited about the day. I want to really establish a business that allows me the opportunity to build more businesses. Even if things don't go according to my plan, I just want to be 92 years old and happy that I took the chance on me. I know myself. I will never be dissatisfied if I know I really put the effort in. I mean REALLY put the effort into the journey called life.

I believe writing this all out and placing it on this website that I love so much is telling the universe that I'm truly ready and committed to this new journey. These are my intentions. What I manifest mind will come to fruition.

I know it's February 23, 2019... but Happy Fucking New Year Y'all. Let's own 2019!

What actions are you taking to manifest an amazing 2019?

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Just Breathe | Los Angeles Boudoir Photography

When you shoot with the luxury Dallas based boudoir studio, Wonderland Boudoir, we often tell you that if you only remember one thing during your session, it's to just breath.

Breathing is something we all do instinctively. It's the first thing we do when we leave the womb and the last thing before we take that final rest until our next transition. However, we all, in a way, take the complicated art of breathing for granted.

There are different ways to breath depending on where you are and what you are doing. For example, when you work out there is a different way to breath to make sure you're getting enough oxygen to your lungs. When you meditate you have another way of breathing. When shooting your boudoir session with Wonderland Boudoir we have a special way for you to breath. Our technique is two-fold. First, it helps you to calm down. The second is that when you breathe correctly it always you to showcase that subtle sexiness that all women have.

What a lot of women don't get is that boudoir is not just about sexy faces. It's the slight change in your lips, the flirtatiousness of the eyes, and the way that you run your fingers in your hair. Boudoir is about capturing those soft and subtle elements of femininity that we all miss because we have taken it for granted.

When you come to us, the first rule I teach everyone is how to properly breathe. When you're not breathing correctly I take the time to show you the difference in your photos. Without fail, every single time, the client is floored how something as simple as breathing really changes the whole feel of a single shot.

This is just one of the rules we teach you at Wonderland Boudoir.

While out shooting boudoir in Los Angeles one of my favorite girls I had the opportunity of capturing was Ms. A. I know! I shot A LOT of ladies whose name begins with "A" while out in Los Angeles. I actually met Ms. A through the suggestion of another amazing photographer, Jerry from The Willis Collection.

Jerry told me that he had a badass friend that he thinks I should hold a boudoir session with. He believed that Ms. A and I might vibe since our frequency seemed to be on the same wavelength. Clearly, Jerry isn't a bad judge in character. He knew exactly what he was talking about when it came to Ms. A.

Ms. A and I chatted a bit before actually meeting. Even when it came to the location she had another place in mind that was just absolutely stunning. It was something that you only see in high-end Instagram accounts.

The location was masculine but still had enough gender fluidity that we could make it work. I knew as soon as I walked into the sun-drenched industrial styled location that I wanted to do a more laid back and late summer vibe. I'm sure by now you guys know that I LOVE laid-back late summer shoots. HaHa!

Shooting Ms. A felt like I was speaking to a friend that I had known for decades. She and her beautiful dog, Professor Pierre, made my day. Also, Pierre taught me that I need to go a little easier on my coconut and vitamin E body oil concoction I had created especially for LA. This funny little pup would not stop licking my leg! It was perfectly fine with me seeing as that was the most a male has licked me in years.

As you guys know that I lost the order of my blog questionnaire that I have all the ladies complete. I'm praying that these are actually Ms. A's responses or else I'm going to look like a complete ass.

LOL! Here we go!

BOUDOIR EXPERIENCE INTERVIEW WITH MS.A - LOS ANGELES BOUDOIR PHOTOGRAPHY

How did you feel going through your second session with us?

Honestly the best experience! Korin is really such a pleasure to work with as she makes you feel comfortable and confident in your own skin!!

What did you learn from this session that really helped you?

love to learn something from everyone and with Korin it was to breathe out as we shot, to create a sense of ease in the photo and relaxed which totally changed the game for me I think!

What was your favorite part about getting ready for your session?

Planning outfits and the vibe for this shoot as Korin made her way out to LA!

What is something that you learned about yourself after your second session?

I learned that I am both fierce and sexy.

What are some suggestions that you would give other women considering a boudoir session for first or second time?

Trust the magic! Embrace your body and personality, let that shine through. Ask lots of questions and work with the photographer to figure out what works best with your angles!

Please add any final thoughts you might have.

Book her!! I've worked with a lot of male photographers, and the differences with a female photographer and their ability to see and create a vision of the female body are empowering!

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I was great creating a beautiful and timeless session with Ms. A. I hope you had as much fun looking through the photos as we had to capture this session. If you are interested in having your own boudoir session please feel free to hit me up at the contact sheet below.

SONG OF THE WEEK:

This song by Anna Wise and Xavier Omar is just breathtakingly beautiful. It total reminds me of the vibe of the session Ms. A and I had together.

Summer's Last Goodbye, The Most Epic Sunset i Los Angeles | Los Angeles Boudoir Photography

While Wonderland Boudoir is the premier Boudoir Photography studio in Dallas, occasionally we love to travel out of state to capture some boudoir sessions. One of my favorite cities in the world is Los Angeles.

Los Angeles is a great city but I do have a few complaints I'd like to voice. First of all, why is there ALWAYS traffic?! I mean really my G?! Are there THAT many people that live in the city? I guess Drake was right when he said, "You know LA traffic, how the city slow". Perhaps I have been spoiled by living in Texas. The speed limit here goes up to 80 mph on major highways. So you can only imagine how taken aback I was when the max I could get drive the highway was 50.

It drove me absolutely mad.

The other thing that drives me crazy about Los Angeles is the parking. Parking is damn near impossible in that town. On my first night in the Airbnb, I got lucky because there was a free spot right in front of the building I was renting. I was actually cool until my last 24 hours in LA. Where my car got towed and I was fined $167 where I parked. I mean, they only had my rental car for 40 good minutes and I had to pay damn near $300 to get that bad boy out.

Let's not forget that since Los Angeles traffic is so bad it took us 30 minutes to drive five miles to the impound.

First of all, LA needs to hire a civil engineer so they can figure out the parking situations. I mean one night I had to park two blocks away from the building... only to get up at 6 AM to make sure I had enough money in the meter so I wouldn't be towed.

Why am I bringing all this up? Because before Ms. M held our session, I had to bum a ride from her to pick up my towed rental car. Thus wasting two good hours of shooting time. Since I wasted our time that only lead to us not shooting in the desert. Therefore I had to move our boudoir session to Ascot Park.

I hated that we had to waste our golden shooting time to worry about my car issues, but I have to say that the final photos were all worth the hassle.

What I loved most about Ms. M outdoor boudoir session was that magnificent sunset. What's even crazier is that I don't believe that my camera or photos did that sunset any justice.

You know what else I loved about that sunset? It made me feel like my dad was watching over me. I have no idea why, but I honestly felt that sunset from him that day was a way for him to just say hi and that's he's watching me. Don't you love little signs like that from family members that have passed? I know I do.

I couldn't have asked for a better way to conclude our boudoir session with Ms. M. The fashion that we picked out for her session complemented the scenery perfectly. I loved how her wavy curls added a sense of late summer nonchalance. That blue jean jacket with burgundy panties was a simple and classic Americano.

Let's not forget how awesome Ms. M was. First of all, she drove all the way from San Diego to shoot with me in Los Angeles. Then once she got here she totally took me to get my rental car back. Ms. M is another person that I have been trying to hook up with for a minute now. She was actually recommended to me by another boudoir photographer based in the Southern California area.

Ms. M attitude was perfect for the session. She served our military and stayed calm, cool, and collected through our entire session. She was even open to being in panties, a jean jacket, and no bra in the middle of a public park with people walking around. That's what I call committed.

I know I asked a lot from Ms. M that day, but she delivered without an ounce of complaint. For that, I have to be forever grateful for.

Rather if you're in the Los Angeles, Austin, New York, or Dallas area please feel free to reach out to me if you're interested in a boudoir session. I look forward to speaking to and planning the session of your dreams. Contact me using the quick form below!

SONG OF THE WEEK:

ONLY by Nicki Minaj featuring Lil Wayne and Drake