I love shooting boudoir in Dallas. Everyone deserves beautiful and sexy photos of herself. As a female boudoir photographer, I love capturing all the small nuances that make a boudoir photo Pinterest worthy. Yes, hair and makeup play an important role, but the most important role in a photo is the element of emotion. How does this photo make you feel? What do you want to do after seeing it? How does this person feel while shooting? What was going through her mind? What was the photographer feeling while capturing the shot?
Perhaps I am the only person who wonders that last questions since I am a photographer. I have been shooting since I was 14. While sitting in my High School photojournalism class my teacher quickly learned that in photography I am drawn to the element of art. It was never about a perfectly composed photo or if the highlight were perfect. It was about the story behind the pictures and if could I accurately tell it from a single shot.
This is why I can't wait to showcase this next set. I shot this back in February. While that was three months ago it feels like it was just yesterday. Sometimes I just need the freedom to create and shoot. Photography is an art form to me. When shooting this beautiful soul I just wanted to shoot freely, make mistakes, and be without all the production. No hair. No makeup. Just God, the muse, and myself.
Enter Ms. Jay. She was exactly what I was looking for. Confident, fun, beautiful, subtly sexy with just a bit of quirky and nerdy. We spoke on the phone and communicated through email. I told her I was in the process of changing my style and I need to shoot with more passion, more authenticity, and more emotion. I need to push beyond the fashion, hair, and makeup and just focus on the core. The core being two people creating a masterpiece. The core being, "Who is this person."
I wanted to shoot through my heart. With reckless abandon. I wanted to feel free. To escape all the barriers I put up and put all of me out there. While, admittedly, there was more I could have done to push myself when I look at this set, I am super happy with the results.
What I am most happy about is that J trusted me. She left nothing on the table and worked with me. Her comfort with herself made me more comfortable with myself. While most of my sessions aren't centered around me, this one was.
What did I learn from this project?
The first, last, and most important relationship you will ever have will be the one you have with yourself. People can detect authenticity in your work. If you aren't happy with where things are going it is your responsibility to change that. No one else is required to help you, but you.
I learned that when I'm honest with what I really want to see out of my clients they are more willing to listen. There have been times when the client only half gets the pose I want and I will tell them that will work... but when culling my photos I get upset because the photo could have been that much better if I had played chicken with my client had I stuck with what I really wanted out of her. I learned that I needed to be a more honest communicator.
In this session, I was able to direct J exactly like I wanted because I was doing this for me. Yet, why wasn't I doing this for my clients? That's what they wanted right? The biggest compliment I get from people is how I direct. If I am to be honest with myself, I can be better with telling people what I want from them. I will. With and without the camera in front of my eyes.
I also learned that you truly need to "fuck-their-thoughts". Who is their? Also, why are we fucking their thoughts? 'Their' are all the dumbass voices in your head who promote self-doubt. Those thoughts that drive fear and promote stagnation. Those that want you to stick to the status quo. Those stupid fucking thoughts that stop you from achieving greatness because you feel uncomfortable. While we are at it, fuck your comfort. Yes, in the event you are wondering, fuck is my favorite cuss word.
I felt like a bird while shooting J. I was without restraints. Flying free. Unbound to any type of expectation to anyone. This was my world were I finally allowed myself to create freely. I was living by my own rules. Fuck the hair. Fuck the makeup. All I wanted to do was create without these limits, fears, and self-doubt I conjured up for myself. Gawd, did it feel amazing. To be in a single moment of complete and utter mental freedom is the most satisfying state of mind you will ever achieve.
That's what creates leaders, artist, and innovators, right? The ability to dream outside the limits. To do what people think are crazy? To do what people wish they had the audacity to do. Do what scares you. Do what makes you grow.
I will be working with J again so please expect to see her more on this blog. When you see Jay it will be an extension of me expressing a piece of who I am. It will be a part of me dying to escape this self-imposed prison I built.
I appreciate J because she trusts me. I trust her. She has given me full permission to work with her with no limits. I can't wait to create more art with her and share my musing with you after my sessions with this beautiful soul.
I know everyone is going to ask so... EVERY single piece that J is rocking was styled by me and can be found at Forever 21.
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