1I don’t give a fuck what anyone says. Fergie’s M.I.L.F $ video was outstanding. I am loving the fact that she is promoting the healthy ideology of women having their own careers while still owning that sexuality that has made them, them. You can be a leader, a businesswoman and a mom, all while still being hot as fuck doing it. Don’t let the world or society tell you what your limits are as a woman especially if you are a mother.
The thing I don’t like is “feminist” knocking Fergie saying this video doesn't represent feminism. Feminism is defined as the advocacy of women's rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men.
We as women need to stop wasting our time judging each other and join forces. The highlight of M.I.L.F $ is that the cameos are all iconic women who are not ashamed their sexuality (Kim Kardashian, Chrissy Teigen, Ciara, Alessandra Ambrosio, Gemma Ward, Tara Lynn, Devon Aoki, Angela Lindvall, Isabeli Fontana, Amber Valletta, and Natasha Poly). All these women have made a career for themselves by loving and owning who they are as women. While the world told them to cover up while yelling, “you’re a mom now!” they went about their business and climbed to the top. These women have succeeded in owning that femininity and showing other women they could have it all too.
The narrative we women face every day is HOW we need to ACT as ladies. Women shouldn’t have to “act” any certain way. This is why I love boudoir photography. Boudoir allows women to just let go and be who they have always wanted to be, themselves.
One of the other narratives that society tells is that we can’t be sexy and a mother. Why? Who the fuck determined that sexiness stopped after you became a mom? Sexy does not mean slutty. How is a mother a slut for owning her sexuality and femininity? Where did this bullshit idea come from?
So, I decided to look up the word slut. Per Google, slut means a WOMAN who has many casual partners. Why is slut only used towards women? Why can’t a woman have many sexual partners? Why are men celebrated for their promiscuity and women are put down? Also, what is the male version of slut?
Why do we as a society confuse sexiness with sluttiness?
I mean real talk… Why are Kim Kardashian and Amber Rose called sluts? We have to be all be honest here... Kim wasn’t sleeping with every dude in the world. She just made a sex tape where she was having sex with one person who we ALL know she was in a committed relationship with. Same with Amber Rose. She was in a long-term relationship with Kanye West and Wiz Khalifa, but because these women decide to show off their curvaceous bodies and own their femininity they are now… sluts? Even though it’s been proven they haven’t earned that title?
To own, love, and rock the fuck out of your mommyhood and womanhood is something ALL women have the right to do. We as a society don’t have the right to tell a woman to do with her body or how she should act or look after she gives birth.
Own your femininity.
Own you sexuality.
Stop letting the world validate who you are as a person.
At the end of the day you have to live with yourself. Don’t allow yourself to be mentally imprisoned based on another person's opinion of femininity, sexuality, and womanhood.