“I love you more than I love myself.”
Have you heard that phrase said before? Have you said it? When you said it were you pleading with someone? Was it an intense fight? What was the end result of that fight?
I’m going to gather that it wasn’t good and you two separated ways… or at the very least your relationship was strained for a long time.
You should never love anyone else more than you love yourself (your children excluded). I’m speaking more of getting dangerously lost in personal relationships with people. Rather than doing what we know is the right thing for us we sacrifice either emotionally or financially (many times both) to others who would not do the same for us.
Loving yourself first is not selfish. If you can’t be your own motivator, cheerleader, or inspiration then how do you expect anyone else to do that for you?
People are attracted to confidence. When you love yourself first you begin to form a confidence that people around you will take notice of. There is a presence there that is recognized immediately. We have all felt this type of energy from someone in our lifetime. It’s powerful and contagious.
When you love yourself first you begin to carry yourself differently. You will also notice that you begin to take less shit from others, especially in personal relationships. You will begin to be more vocal about the things that are not acceptable to you… when before you may have been shyer to voice your opinion out of fear of rejection or dismissal.
However, when you begin loving yourself first you no longer fear the thought of rejection or dismissal. If that person can’t see or understand your value it’s no problem for you to drop them by the wayside. What I have learned in this life is that once you get rid of the people who don’t value you, or add value to your circle, great things begin happening in your life. You are no longer concerned with people who are only concerned with themselves. Your energy is being redirected and because of that good energy comes into your life. This happens because you now understand YOUR value. You know this value because you began loving yourself first. You can’t just like yourself. You have to LOVE yourself. Be honest, can you be our own best friend? If you can’t then perhaps it’s time to start making a change in your life.
You have to like being alone with yourself… you can’t be scared of that. You have to be your own best friend at times, and really you should be the type of person you would want to date and marry. Once you have those feelings about yourself then you know that you really love yourself. Trust me. You will find that person who sees and wants that same value and energy that you have.
Just love yourself first.